I also wrote about other lies that I expect to encounter, including penis size, age and relationship status, but I made no mention of the real "shocker" of the same OkTrends article. That "lie" deserves a post of its own.
Here's what OkTrends says about on-line dating claims of bisexuality:
OkCupid is a gay- and bi-friendly place and it's not our intention here to call into question anyone's sexual identity. But when we looked into messaging trends by sexuality, we were very surprised at what we found. People who describe themselves as bisexual overwhelmingly message either one sex or the other, not both as you might expect. Site-wide, here's how it breaks out:To document their assertion that "bisexuality is often a hedge for gay people" OkTrends shares this graph and text:
+ 41% of bisexuals ONLY send messages to men
+ 36% of bisexuals ONLY send messages to women
+ 23% of bisexuals send messages to both men and women
This suggests that bisexuality is often either a hedge for gay people or a label adopted by straights to appear more sexually adventurous to their (straight) matches.
In this chart, throughout the teens and twenties, the male bisexual population is mostly observably gay men. By the mid-thirties, it seems, most of these men are more comfortable self-identifying as gay and have left the bi population. By the end of our chart, 3 of every 4 bi males on OkCupid are observably straight. Meanwhile, the proportion of men who message both women and other men holds fairly steady.
Please note, everybody, that we don’t assume that bis should be “into both genders equally.” We only assume that they should be into both genders at all. The swaths of red and blue that you see in these sexuality charts represent people who message only one gender. The purple areas are people who send any messages, in whatever proportion, to both men and women.
Female bisexuals, it turns out, are more consistent. There's a slight uptrend in the late teens and early 20s to message both men and women, but after that, roughly one-third of bisexual women message only men, one-third message only women and the remaining third message both.
The OkTrends blog where this article appeared has a comment section - and wow! - did they get comments about this bisexuality data. Many wanted to explain why the above analysis is wrong. The most convincing argument I saw was that many bisexuals already had a connection with one gender and THAT'S why the data is skewed. That makes sense to me. But it's still impossible to know if that is the major reason "bisexual" appears to mean "I want a man" for such a large portion of male OkCupid users.
Had this article been more widely read, I expect many non-bisexuals would have trumpeted the results as proof that "bisexual" is nothing more than "a stop on the road to Gaytown" as the TV character Carrie Bradshaw so famously said. You poor bisexuals...not many straights or gays believe you're genuinely into both genders.
So what does this post have to do with the super sexy hero of this blog (aka me)? Absolutely nothing.
I guess I'm like everyone else and I can't resist the opportunity to have a little fun at the expense of you fence-sitting bisexuals.